Thursday, December 31, 2009

The Holiday

We’re home and heading back to work after spending 6 days in Cambodia…and it was lovely. 

After a grueling day of bus travel, we arrived in Siem Reap, home of the incredible Angkor.  I really enjoyed Siem Reap—even aside from all of the temples, the town itself is full of cute little restaurants, cafes and bars.  Since it’s a pretty small town, everything is pretty easily walkable. 

We started exploring Ankgor’s temples on Tuesday, beginning with the Angkor Thom complex. It was a very surreal sort of experience.  It also doesn’t hurt that the weather was amazing.  Brilliant-blue cloudless skies, bright sun, cool (compared to Saigon, at least) air, lovely breezes, lots of green.  I found myself taking picture after picture, trying to capture just how vivid the colors were—it never worked, of course.

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Bayon turned out to be, by far, my favorite.  It was such a maze of passages and rooms—every time I thought I had seen all of the first floor, I turned the corner to discover something new!  On the upper terrace, there are some 200 huge stone faces on the many towers.  Where Angkor Wat is huge and impressive, Bayon is compressed and mysterious, tucked in the center of Angkor Thom among the trees.

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We were there right at midday, when the sun was at its hottest, so things were pretty cleared out.  I could have sat there for ages, enjoying the breeze and wondering about the incredible civilization that built all of this.

After lunch we headed to Angkor Wat itself.  It was incredible, to be sure—especially the bas reliefs—but I didn’t feel as overwhelmed as in some of the other temples.  Some sections were under construction, and it was more crowded than other areas.  Lots of big tour groups to dodge.

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Around 4:30 we climbed Phnom Bakheng to get a spot for the sunset.  I knew it would get pretty crowded, but it was a circus by 5:30!  I’m glad we got there when we did, because we had a perfect spot on the ledge to watch.  The view was incredible even before the sun began to lower.

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On Wednesday we set out super early to get back to Angkor Wat for the sunrise.  Approaching the temple in the dark was very eerie, and I half expected a zombie to come flying out of the side.  It didn’t, thank goodness.

Most people head down off of the main walkway to stand in front of the pond and watch the sun come up over one side.  Something about the reflection over the water and “Tomb Raider”…I don’t know.  We stayed on the walkway, and it was almost like having the place to ourselves!  That is, apart from the food vendor barking at anyone who passed by to visit his restaurant after the sunrise.  Oh, and playing some ridiculous Asian hip hop at full blast from his cell phone.  Thanks, dude.

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A funny side note on vendors at Angkor: there are people in and around all of the temples selling all kinds of souvenirs.  Among them are some children, especially little girls.  When you say you don’t want to buy, one of the first things they do is ask where you’re from.  “USA?  Oh, Washington, D.C.!  The President is Barack Obama, and his wife is Michelle, and they have two daughters named Malia and Sasha, and their dog Bo is a Portuguese Water Dog…Do you live in Chicago, Washington, D.C. or New York?”  I expect they have an equally impressive (and random) list of facts for many of the other nations that send tourists to Angkor—often in their native languages, too!  One girl started demonstrating to me her abilities in five languages.

It’s interesting to see the sales techniques utilized by different regions—for instance, here, children seemed to emphasize knowledge (“I need money for school!”).  In Sapa, Vietnam, where children also tend to speak a little bit in several languages, it seemed like the emphasis was more on guilt (“You’re my friend—you buy from me!”).  Maybe that’s because in Sapa they can follow you around for several days and find out everything about you and your fellow travelers…just interesting.   

After breakfast we wandered through a bunch of the minor temples, which was wonderful.  Most of them had only a few other visitors, so we felt like we were exploring on our own.

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Ta Prohm was the last major temple we visited.  It was built in the same style as Bayon, but has been overgrown in many places by enormous silk-cotton trees.  I had heard a lot about this one, and fully expected it to be my favorite.

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Although the trees were breathtaking to be sure, it was just too crowded there to be a very enjoyable experience.  Crowds make me super grouchy (is this a surprise?), and the ones at Ta Prohm were impossible to avoid.  There were probably five or six large (and often smelly) tour groups moving through sometimes-small spaces, and it was just a little too claustrophobic for me.  Still, gorgeous.

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We went to Siem Reap’s night market that evening, which was a total tourist attraction, but lots of fun.  It was much bigger than I expected—rows and rows of stalls filled with some really gorgeous souvenirs (nothing different from what was at the Old Market, but still).  There were also several little bars, massage stalls, live music, and a ton of Mr. Fish/Mr. Massage/Fish Massage tanks—the ones where little fish eat the dead skin off of your feet!  We chose one based on its awesome sign:

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I don’t know about “feel differentiate,” “relief” or “global affairs (here)”, but I can safely report that there was plenty of ticklishness, which I guess makes it a funny incident?

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Those fish loved our feet.  We felt really silly giggling like kids, but you wouldn’t believe how that tickles!  Unavoidable.

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We caught the end of a performance by a group of young adults with disabilities (mostly due to polio or landmines), and bought a few things before we left.

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Cambodia’s currency system is a strange combination of the U.S. dollar and Cambodian riel—prices are often listed in dollars, with small change given in riel.  I’ve quickly become accustomed to thinking in Vietnam dong, so seeing prices in dollars was a little jarring!  Somehow everything seems more expensive in USD.  I found myself mentally converting into VND frequently, trying to determine how the prices compared to what I would pay at home.

On Thursday we spent a lazy morning around town, picking up a few more gifts and enjoying the breeze from the cafes before hopping on a bus back to Phnom Penh.  The highlight for me was finding someone selling cotton candy  by the side of the river!

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Christmas Day itself was sort of a downer.  I had some bacon with breakfast that tasted a little funny, but I chalked it up to the differences in the way meat tastes from one country to another.  We had planned to spend the day visiting the genocide museum and killing fields (festive, right?) before finding somewhere fun for dinner.  Unfortunately, I only made it through about an hour of the museum before I started feeling sick.  I spent the rest of the day waiting for the stuff to work its way out of my system!

Tuol Sleng is a former secondary school that was used by the Khmer Rouge regime as a prison, and for torture and extermination.  It’s very eerie: the Khmer Rouge fled very quickly, taking time only to kill the remaining prisoners.  A photographer documented the complex as it was left, including the rotting corpses chained to beds in each cell.  Today, visitors to the museum can wander through the classrooms-turned-cells, most of which contain only a rusting bedframe and mounted photograph of the room as it was discovered. 

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The museum also houses a collection of photographs taken by the Khmer Rouge of S-21 inmates.  It seems to go on forever, but we know that the collection is incomplete: an estimated 17,000 to 20,000 were prisoners at S-21, and there are only 12 known survivors.

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He continued on to Choeung Ek, one of Cambodia’s many killing fields.

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The day’s highlight was chatting with family (immediate and some extended) later that evening.

After another long day of traveling, we were back at home by Saturday evening.  I can’t wait for our next trip (probably to Malaysia and Singapore over Tet), but I’m glad to be back for now!)  I hope your holiday was as wonderful as ours.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Christmas in Cambodia

We're here, and I think I may be falling in love with Siem Reap! Tonight we watched the sunset from the top of one of Angkor's beautiful temples. Tomorrow we'll be back for sunrise. :)
Have a wonderful Christmas--I'll be back with pictures and updates after we get home on Sunday!

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Home Sweet Home and Christmas Plans

I keep meaning to update, and then putting it off…by now I have a ton of little things to tell you about.

First, we’re finally moved out of our hotel and into our home!  It took forever—we only moved in last Wednesday, which means we were in Bien Hoa hotels for about a month and a half.  Definitely not what I expected.

We ended up settling on a “studio” in a brand new building, just a block away from school.  We chose the fifth floor, which has a great view and the largest balcony (although it’s still only big enough for two small chairs).  There’s also a rooftop deck just above us, which is perfect for early-morning yoga. We share the kitchen on the first floor, which I mind far less than I thought I would.  It’s sometimes a little awkward, and I’m pretty sure the family who owns the house pities Joey for having a wife who’s such a poor cook.  But those funny, awkward interactions are part of what we came here for.

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So far, I’m in heaven.  Whereas in the hotel (sans sunlight) I was sleeping in easily until 11 or 12, here I wake up no later than 7.  Joey tends to sleep until 9, so I have a few hours to enjoy the sunlight (and the sunrise, if I wake up a bit earlier) and the quiet.  And the coffee!!  I’ve missed coffee so much.  It’s a pain to make it by the cup, but it makes me smile every time I sip that wonderful stuff.  We’re still waiting for our couch to arrive, but the change in morale is already huge.

We also went into Saigon the other day to meet up with a friend from college!  He’s currently a junior at Queens, and has been studying in Hong Kong this semester.  He’s doing some travelling before he heads home, and stopped in Vietnam on the way through Cambodia and Thailand.  It was so nice to see someone from home!

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We went with Joey H to Reunification Palace and the War Remnants Museum—I hadn’t been to either of them since my trip last May with Queens, and my second visit was very different.  The War Remnants Museum in particular was a really shocking, emotional and draining experience for most of our group last year, and certainly was for me.  This time I think I felt more sadness and disappointment in the things human beings do to other human beings than utter shock and horror.  I intend to talk more about the war at some point, and the damage done by Agent Orange, but that will take more space and thought than I want to devote to a short update post.  If you’re interested, Joey took some pictures the first time he visited (be forewarned, some of it is very graphic).

We also paid a visit to our favorite ice cream place.  Their menu has grown since the last time we were there—I’m pretty sure it will take us the entire year to get through it.  This time I ordered the sushi, which was adorable AND delicious!

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Right now, we’re trying to decide what to do for Christmas.  We were planning to go to Da Lat, a town in the central highlands that’s popular with honeymooners.  It’s a moderate bus ride away, and promises a cooler climate (sweaters and scarves, even!) in addition to mountains and waterfalls.

We ended up with almost a week off of work, though, and Da Lat is really only a few days worth of touristy stuff.  We could spend a few days at the beach, but we could just as easily go to Cambodia and mark off some of the spots on our list. 

We’re casually talking about going to Cambodia—tomorrow!  Increasing the number of stamps in my passport from two to three.  No biggie.  Without any real planning (or much money, either), we may be walking through Angkor Wat in less than 48 hours.  This is one of those times that I feel overwhelmed (in a good way) by how incredible it is to be here. 

In the end, I think we’ll just head to Saigon after our classes tomorrow morning and spend some time perusing our options at the many tour companies in the Pham Ngo Lau area.  I’ll let you know where we end up!

Sunday, December 13, 2009

3 Months and Counting…

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We’ve been married three months today!  I’ve been meaning to post a recap of our wedding for a while, and now seemed like a good time. :)

We had a hard time deciding what we wanted to do for our wedding, and for a while it felt like we were continually changing our minds.  Both Joey and I have large extended families, and we could hardly imagine getting married without everyone present.  At the same time, Lebanon and St. Albans are over 6 hours away from each other, and choosing one location over the other would most certainly cut some people out.  We really liked the idea of getting married in Charlotte, but that would have been an 8 hour drive for family in PA, and 4 hours for those in WV.

As we solidified our plans to move to Vietnam, the need to see (and spend time with) everyone became even more important—we really wanted a chance to celebrate with all of the people we’ve been so loved and supported by.  And so we began thinking about a relatively small wedding in Charlotte, with larger, informal celebrations in Charlotte (for college friends), West Virginia and Pennsylvania.

This felt right, but narrowing down our friends and family to a short list of 50 or even 75 for the wedding itself was incredibly difficult and stressful.  The moment we began talking about a teeny-tiny ceremony limited to immediate family and a very few close friends, I felt a huge sigh of relief.  It just felt exactly right, and very us—to keep it very small and simple for the wedding itself, but to later allow ourselves a chance to celebrate informally with our families.

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I think in some ways I probably expected our wedding day to be immune to the little quirks that shape our everyday lives.  It wasn’t.  Lots of things that I intended to spend time on were left to the last minute, and our families and friends were always asking questions we probably should have had answers to (like, what time do we need to be there?).  Lucie hemmed her dress after the rehearsal dinner, less than 12 hours before the wedding.  I was trimming our table runners (bought three days prior) that morning, in my wedding dress.  Just like any other day, it was a big event to get everyone in the right place at the right time. 

But it was perfect.

Everyone walked in to “Down to the River to Pray” from the O Brother, Where Art Thou? soundtrack.   My dad walked me down the aisle to the Iron & Wine version of “Such Great Heights.” 

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We had chairs, but at the rehearsal the night before it felt exactly right to have everyone standing around us.  So we left the chairs.

Our moms read for us.  First was an excerpt from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres, read by my mom:

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.”

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Joey’s mom read Ruth 1:16-17:

“But Ruth said, ‘Entreat me not to leave you or return from following you; for where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God; where you die I will die, and there will I be buried.  May the Lord do so to me and more also if even death parts me from you.’”

weddingcarolreadingI was more or less holding it together until Adam (Joey’s best man) sang.  It was perfect.  He sang “Offering” by the Avett Brothers, and it broke everyone up.

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I’ve thought a lot about how to describe the experience of saying those vows—a lot.  And there’s really no way to convey the hugeness of it.  I think there were times  in the process that I tried to downplay the hugeness—honestly, I was very self-conscious about being one of those girls who gets married straight out of college.  But it was big.  And wonderful.  The stillness and serenity of those moments—it’s something I’m trying hard to imprint onto my memory.  The pictures of our ceremony are wonderful, but they don’t even come close to expressing the joy and certainty I felt.

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And then we were married. 

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Dr. Mowrey tried to send us down the aisle without kissing—we were having none of that!  After the ceremony, we had brunch in the garden.

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Adam made us all cry again with his best man speech!  I feel so lucky to be spending my life with someone who is loved by such good, genuine, wonderful friends. 

One of my favorite moments was after Adam’s speech.  Dad looked down to the end of the table and said, “Okay, Isaiah—your turn.”  Everyone played along, and Isaiah was pretty flustered, but he stood up, raised his glass (cup), and said, “Strength to your marriage.”  I think Sammy fed him the line.

It reminded me a lot of the first time our families met—my family came to Charlotte for Joey’s graduation in 2006, and we all went to a favorite restaurant for lunch.  Our server, who’s also one of the restaurant’s owners, convinced Isaiah that she would milk the goat for the goat cheese fritters in the back.  She even took him back into the kitchen to prove it to him!  Isaiah came back in and said, “I thought she was just kidding!  We actually went to milk the goat, but she forgot that it’s Saturday, and the goat goes out to the farm on weekends.”

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In lieu of a cake, we all walked a few blocks to Joey and I’s favorite ice cream place. 

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The day was exactly right for us—simple, intimate, and surrounded in love and sunlight. 

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(Our photos were taken by Seth Snider, and you can find more pictures on his website.  There are also a few more on our flickr.)

Friday, November 27, 2009

Happy Turkey Day!

I love Christmas.  It really doesn’t bother me that they start playing holiday music in stores before Thanksgiving, and I love to see decorations and lights go up.  I love the festivities, the candy and cookies, eggnog and mulled wine, wrapping gifts.  I love cheesy Christmas movies.  I love how pretty the house looks when the tree goes up in the front hall, lights on the banister, stockings on the mantle.  I love the Shiner Family Talent Show, and the slightly-patronizing-but-always-genuine chorus of “you did a good job.”  And I love our Christmas tree, which is always overloaded with strings of lights, clumps of tinsel and so many mismatched ornaments that the branches are always weighed down.

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But if I love Christmas (at least in part) for all of the “stuff” that goes into it, I also love Thanksgiving precisely because it lacks the “stuff.”  Thanksgiving is wonderfully simple: a big meal, family, being intentional about the things we are grateful for. 

Thanksgiving’s simplicity is also why I think I’m more homesick right now than I will be around Christmas.  We’re planning a trip to Hanoi a month from now, and I’ve already picked out some fun decorations.  There’s really no way to recreate Thanksgiving, though.  Our families are half the world away, and I don’t think they even have turkey here (much less Tofurkey).  No cranberry sauce, either.

It was a pretty average day here:  Joey had the day off, but I taught in the evening.  I was pleasantly surprised to find that the Thai place we go to for dinner often had put up a tree and was playing Christmas music. 

This morning I called home and got to talk to almost everyone around the dinner table for a minute or so before my phone conked off.  I could hear the Sherrill Sister Cackle in the background, which made me miss home even more.

All in all, I’m incredibly grateful for this opportunity to travel and see the world, but I’m also thankful that I have wonderful family and friends to come home to after it all.  Love to everyone.

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(Okay, so the picture is of Halloween and not Thanksgiving, but there is a hand turkey and an Indian involved.)

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

The Vegetarian’s Wife

Eating has been a challenge since we moved to Bien Hoa.  I’ve mentioned before that Joey is a vegetarian—he has been for five years, and is pretty strict (no meat whatsoever, no seafood, no gelatin).  This was no problem in Ho Chi Minh City.  In fact, we found tons of vegetarian places that even I enjoyed!  This is largely due to the heavy Buddhist influence in Vietnam.

Bien Hoa is a different story, however.  The area is predominately Catholic, which means that there are much fewer people eating strictly vegetarian.  Fewer vegetarian eaters means fewer vegetarian offerings for us. 

The language barrier affects us much more here, too.  Although we know how to say that Joey is a vegetarian, people have a difficult time understanding us.  Often they just smile and shake their heads, and we move on to the next place. 

As a result, we have about four options for our meals, and most of them are really pricey for Bien Hoa.  There’s one really good vegetarian place, a pricey pizza place, a Thai hotpot restaurant, and one other.  The Thai place is affordable if you’re just getting the “healthy platter”—lots of vegetables and some tofu.  But since it’s a hotpot meant to be shared, that means no meat for me.  Same with the last restaurant I mentioned: the only reason we can eat there is because someone from the school went with us the first day and explained that we needed something with vegetables and tofu, no meat.  They make a really good dish with noodles and veggies, and a big platter of tofu on the side, but they make enough for two.  Anytime we go there they know what we want, and I don’t know how to explain that we’d just like one so I can order something different.  I’ve basically been a vegetarian by association for these past few weeks.

We also spend a few hours at a cafe every morning to use their WIFI and eat breakfast.  I can always order something with meat, which is nice, but the food isn’t great.  Joey can get banh mi op la, which is baguette sandwich with fried eggs, cilantro, soy sauce and cucumbers.  It’s available everywhere on the street, and is really delicious, but he’s eating one at least once every day, and I know he’s really sick of them.

So.  Very frustrating.  It’s also awkward that we keep going back to these same four places—I’m pretty sure the staff there think we’re really weird.  And it’s always difficult for me when we’re passing up so many places that look really delicious on the street.  They would be cheaper and probably tastier than a lot of what we’re eating, but without being able to find a vegetarian option, it’s not really a possibility.

This will all change when we move out of our hotel (one week from today!!) and start cooking for ourselves.  I am so psyched to have options!

Monday, November 23, 2009

Our Hotel Has An Hourly Rate.

This puzzled me when I noticed it for the first time.  In fact, even before I noticed the hourly rate, I noticed the number of little hotels in our area.  Bien Hoa doesn’t exactly attract tourists.  Although the existence of a few motels could be explained by the need to accommodate visiting relatives or business travelers, there are way too many for that.  How on earth could they all afford to run?

Out particular hotel is nothing special.  It’s pretty new—maybe built a year or two ago?  Apart from lacking sunlight and smelling a bit like a nursing home, there’s nothing sketchy about it.  The owners are a very nice family.  No unsavory characters lurking in the halls.

So why the hourly rate?

The owner’s daughter, Duong, who’s fluent in English, cleared it up for us.  I was a little too bashful to ask, but luckily she was chatting to us about the entertainment options for young Vietnamese on the weekends: they either go to the cafe, sing karaoke, or go to the motel.

Oh.  Good!

Actually, it’s usually young married couples who go to the motel to get a room.  Typically, newlyweds live with the husband’s family—probably three or four generations of it.  40,000 dong ($2.29) at their local motel buys an hour of privacy. 

Now that we know what’s going on, I see this happening all the time.  When we get home on Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings, the lobby and hallway is crowded with motorbikes.  Occasionally we pass a couple doing the walk of shame…

Duong said around Christmas things get so busy that they can charge as much as 300,000 dong for two hours—that’s double what we pay for a night!  And they still have to turn people away!  No room at the inn, indeed.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Monday, November 16, 2009

Can We Talk About This?

I know it’s not very sophisticated of me, but I love tv.  Love it.  And I can’t get any of my shows online here due to international copyright laws. 

But while I’m missing the real thing, Sesame Street’s version of Mad Men is pretty awesome.  Too bad they didn’t include any of the ladies in this episode—a muppet version of Joan Holloway?